I guess I need to get over this part, so do many others that have been discarded by a Narcissist. Let me see what it is that I “Envy” about the New Supply…?? Hmmmmm…..
- She is with him….
Well, that really is nothing. If I wanted to be, I would be with him too. All you have to be is convenient and answer the phone. Hmmm…
- She looks OK, is it her beauty?
No, I don’t think it’s her beauty, because I know that I am more attractive than her. Even that comment was made by him to me numerous times… So, that can’t be it.
- She is living my life and all that he and I talked about, right down to the house, location and accessories.
No, this isn’t it. She is the one that is supplying that lifestyle, just as I would and was before. He isn’t contributing to that life, he is just using it as a projection of himself. It is image…. And not even his…
- She has his loyalty?
Ha, now that one isn’t true at all. I have to remember this. If he was so loyal, I wouldn’t receive the calls and the love messages to this day. He wouldn’t be on dating sites right now. He wouldn’t be talking to other women (self-admitted). He would not have carried on two separate relationships until I recently fled (again). He wouldn’t seek to come to me or ask me when I am going to come to him. He wouldn’t share all the crazy thoughts he has about her that are disparaging with me. I have no doubt they were said about me to her as well. So, loyalties… she doesn’t have that either.
- She can dream of a future?
The key word here is “dream”. I dreamt of many futures that were created by his words and promises. However, even though he is with a New Supply, he still talks about “our future”, how we will be together… Not true, I’m sure he says the same to her…. The one before thought she was getting an engagement ring at Costco. Ha, Costco…. I don’t mean to laugh about that, only that is was said to me to try to make me jealous, but it made me think how crazy that was, to buy an engagement ring at “Costco”? I don’t know. It just didn’t represent to me making the effort, making it special… a Costco engagement ring that can be found in the isle after bulk dog food? The only future I can even imagine will be the future that she creates and then spends a lifetime taking care of him (while he cheats, drinks and lies).
The TRUTH here is…
There is nothing to envy about the New Supply. I kind of feel sorry for her when I resurrect my Christianity. I feel badly that she thinks that this life is better than the one that she once had. It will take time, but hopefully she will see it, before it destroys her. I know this pain, and don’t really wish it on anyone.
I didn’t mean to fall in love with a Narcissistic man. I didn’t even know what one was, until it all started to not make sense. I gave of myself all I had to an empty black hole, because I use to think I saw the lost and angered child within the man that I love that suffered, and I wanted to be that comfort to him. Well, I can still claim the crown of that comfort. That’s what brings him back to me over and over, however it’s like the Tom Cat that comes home at night to be fed and cared for, to only roam the streets again the next day and pick up whatever “P****” that will let him in….